When the dance connection in dance that tears your heart apart: stay with yourself - and how you stay with yourself

Again and again we discuss Dancing Queens Team very special connections in dance. It happens to many of us, especially in the bachata, kizomba or zouk scene: you dance with someone and suddenly there's this incredible connection. Three minutes feel like three hours or turn into much more than 1 to 3 songs, the world disappears, only the two of you remain. Creativity arises, I wasn't even aware that I could dance like that. Pure inspiration and the heart opens up.

This intense connection is addictive, because it often doesn't happen. My only thought: time, please stand still stand still. Don't let go of me when the song is over and dance another one. I hate to admit: far too often, I have already started to idealize another personto imagine what would happen if it went even further: "This is the love I was looking for".

Just as quickly as the feeling came, it disappeared again: He or she gives me a hug, thanks me for the bachata and off to the next one. Or he adopted with the sentences "I absolutely have to have a drink" or "I have to smoke".

So he/she disappears from your field of vision. For you, or at least for me, it feels like your heart is being ripped out. Strange feelings of jealousy I get the same feeling when this person experiences the same connection with someone else, or at least it looks like it - I catch myself watching where this person is dancing. Inwardly I say to myself: Is it still possible? Back to reality - I've often asked myself: Why does it happen that you fall in love or at least fall in love with your dance partner?


I want to show you: You are not the only one to whom this happens. And above all: you can learn to enjoy the magic of the dance partner connection without losing yourself in the abyss afterwards.

Please note: This text is based on our own thoughts and feelings in the Dancing Queens team - from conversations with us, but also with customers, friends, etc. It is important for us to make one thing clear:

Every feeling on the dance floor is okay.

The important thing is that you don't project your feelings onto others or "impose" them on them. And that you are aware that not all of your feelings will be mirrored by the other person in the same way. Be honest with those around you - and with yourself. Enjoy your dance partner connections, because there is hardly anything better. But also pay close attention to your emotional world and make sure you do what really makes you feel good.